Category Archives : Ten Days


Day 10 — One confession.

This is neither the correct “Day 10” (about a week late) nor my most guarded secret. But it is something I grapple with every day. I’m 26 and I still don’t know what I want to do with my life. I enjoy a lot of things, but I’ve always felt that I’m not that great at the things I really love. Somehow, I’m fantastic at the things I get no enjoyoment from, like being a journalist. I have two BAs that I don’t think I really “use” because I don’t have the heart to be a reporter and have too many personal conflicts with basic principles of the field.  So now I’m about to finish grad school and when people ask me what I want to do … I’m not  really sure. The only thing I really know is that I want to work with students and I want to help people. They’re amazing to be around, and I really want to help them navigate the college environment, red tape and all. I wish I had figured this out 5 years ago, but … such is life.


Day 9 — Two smileys that describe your life right now.

I’m Cpt. Use a Smiley When Words Won’t Suffice. o_0 So, this isn’t really a smiley, but it’s close enough. This represents my “wtf is going on?” feeling.  Life’s been hectic lately (when is it not) and sometimes all I can muster is this face while I summon the strength to keep going. 😐 Again, this is my life. My grin and bear it face. Things aren’t totally bad, nor are they good. Neutral … or as neutral as things can be.


Day 8 — Three turn ons.

Aow! The fun stuff. I’m sure people are dying to know what grinds my gears … in a good way. Smart guys – I love guys who are smart, know they’re smart an try to get smarter.  I think I like it so much because I can learn from them. This isn’t to say I need them to have beaucoup degrees or anything like that (though it doesn’t hurt); I just want them to love learning and knowing as much as I do. Guys into music – Ooh that’s so hot!  It just works out so much better when the guy I’m dating loves and appreciates music as much as I do.  It doesn’t even have to be the same taste, either. I’m open to all music, and I’d hope he is, too. Funny guys – there’s nothing better than a guy who’s funny.  Frankly speaking, I’m easily distracted, so I can be angry as hell but if he can make me laugh he’s won the battle.  And he has to be off-the-cuff funny — make light of life and the ridiculous situations and sights it puts in your path. Yep, that’s it.


Day 7 — Four turn offs.

This is an unfair post because nearly everything turns me off LOL.  But seriously, here are the deal breakers: Convictions – there’s nothing attractive about a criminal record, period.  I realize people make mistakes or have to learn certain lessons, but there’s a line I won’t cross – that’s it. Ignorance – There are few things more annoying to me than someone who doesn’t or has no interest in thinking critically about the world.  This isn’t to say I want someone who always critiques everything. But I do want someone who is capable of seeing past the obvious to understand what things mean, what their impacts are, and the like. Short men – This is probably my only physical hang-up in dating. I refuse to date someone shorter than me.  The perfect height to me is somewhere between 5’10 and 6’4″. Any taller than that is kinda creepy to me. Multiple kids – I’m fairly sure I don’t have it in me to be a step-mom, but I also acknowledge that I already have a kid so I’m slightly more amenable to consider dating a guy with a kid. But more than one? Either you’re reckless with your sex or […]


Day 6 — Five people who mean a lot to you.

I’m a fairly reserved person, that can at times border on antisocial.  As a result, I keep a small circle, both friends and family. Choosing the five who mean a lot to me won’t really be too difficult, because … I just don’t keep that many around! The one I birthed – there is no love stronger than that of a mother for her child. At least, in my world, that’s true.  She’s pretty much the greatest thing ever, even when she’s at her worst. The one who birthed me – I understand my mother so much better now that I have my own child. I love her to pieces because I understand how much she has done to give me a good (albeit sheltered) life. I appreciate that. The one I created life with – Hm. What to say. We have the most complicated, yet simplistic relationship ever. Things are going well, and I’m good with that. I love that we created such a beautiful little person and are connected in a way that I’ve never shared with someone else before.  *shrug* The one who I confide in most – She is the one who can play the angel […]